Is This a Dis?

As I mentioned in a previous post, I have accepted a new position within the company. I've been working in this position for a few weeks now.

While I generally got along well with everyone on my previous staff, there was one supervisor in particular, Julie, with whom I had an especially good working relationship. We worked together productively, we were able to discuss issues candidly, and we seemed to connect well on a personal level. After difficult conversations, she would occasionally comment on how thankful she was to have a manager she could trust and be honest with. I genuinely believed that the feeling was mutual.

Of everyone in my group, she seemed to be the most upset about my changing positions. Shortly after the big announcement was made, she was quick to compliment me as a mentor and express her concern over what changes might take place after I leave.

Despite all this, it now seems that she is glad to have me out of her hair.

1. The day after I announced my departure, a couple folks within my group organized a going away bash for me at a local pub. Nearly everyone within my department was there...except for Julie...even though she had told everyone she planned to go.

2. Julie's birthday was a few days after I officially transferred. I stopped by the department twice that day to wish her a happy birthday, but she wasn't at her desk either time. Toward the end of the day, I left her card on her desk with a note. I never heard from her.

3. Nearly all of my former direct reports have stopped down at my new desk at some point to briefly say hi and see how things are going. I have not seen Julie.

4. Based on comments made in conversations with co-workers, I know for a fact that Julie has been at work every day.

Quite frankly, this really isn't a big deal. While I always felt we worked well together, we were never friends outside of work. It just strikes me as a bit odd. But perhaps I'm reading too much into the whole thing.